You do environmental damage to your mental, emotional and physical ecosystem by holding on to anything other than love. If you feel hurt, offended or traumatized then see yourself taking a large shovel and shovelling it all into the furnace of your heart and watch it burn out so that it can be transformed into peace and compassion for yourself and for others. Do not be a hoarder of those hurts, no matter how spikey they are. Shovel them all into the furnace of love in your heart and watch the white smoke of transformation arise to signal not only your liberation but your offender`s also. You are all one, whether you feel like the victim or the perpetrator. It is all the same. Be the releaser, through the power in your heart which is love.

What do you mean when you say there is no difference between the victim and perpetrator?

It is all one because it is simply the human condition that you are all subject to, is it not so? How can you think one soul is more guilty than another? If you know how to live with more love, it is because you have received it at some stage. Do not be so quick to condemn another. Their sin has also been yours because you all set out upon the same path of the forgetting of the love that you truly are. Be therefore full of compassion. This does not mean that you have to hang out with people whose behaviour rattles and upsets you and most certainly not if their behaviour is abusive to you. Everyone will meet the result of their own behaviour in some form or another. So, when you meet it, do not condemn yourself or the other but immediately transmute it through the compassion and love in your heart so that its effect will be redeemed for the highest good of all.